Manipulative people pose a risk to establish he althy and constructive relationships, and the sphere of couples is no exception.
There are a number of characteristic features of these people. We show them below.
Manipulative people: How to recognize them in 7 traits
If you want to know if you have a manipulator nearby, read carefully this series of characteristics that we are going to tell you about.
one. Weakness detectors
One of the great skills of manipulative people is their ability to detect the weak points of others They give the sensation of having a kind of sixth sense that they have specially trained to know what makes the people with whom they interact more vulnerable.
The intention is to have resources with which to weaken people if you need it at any time for your plans. When it detects them, they become part of its artillery, and it will use them against you at its convenience.
2. Controllers
Manipulative people have such a need to have everything under control that they are continually on alert for what is related to what that concerns them.
Starting from the idea that there is a great underlying insecurity in them ( although they try hard enough to hide it and appear to be truly solid people), their way of dealing with it is to try to control everything that has some kind of of connection with the situation they are trying to handle.
In their mind they have a clear idea of how things should be and also the expected behavior of the people with whom they have a relationship. And to make sure that nothing goes beyond the idea they have, they are continually watching that it does.
3. Unstoppable towards their goal
If we ask ourselves what is the objective sought by manipulative people, it will vary depending on the situation, the moment or the context. But what could be considered as the ultimate goal that they pursue would be to achieve the goals that are set at each moment where they will obtain a benefit: their own.
The problem is that to reach your goal, there are no considerations when it comes to stepping on, hurting or deceiving anyone. For manipulative people, anything goes if they can get away with it and they don't stop until they get it.
4. Insatiable
Manipulators feel more powerful the more they manage to manipulate others and, in doing so, the more they need to continue to do so in order to continue to feel in possession of maximum control. It is as if they were immersed in a vicious circle of power, control and "bad arts", ambitioning more the more they achieve and without a balanced moral limit that serves as a brake on their purposes.
For manipulative people, keeping this process alive is a kind of addiction that becomes a lifestyle that is continuously fed back. And it is that an inertia is created that guides everything they do: their decisions, their actions and even their personal relationships.
5. Convincing Liars
They are quite a character and never better said, because with each action they perform and with each word they say they are building an alter ego based on what they intend to achieve.For manipulative people, truth is something relative, since they defend their vision of things based on how they want to sell it to others.
They transform their account of real situations until they turn them into something different, although favorable to their plans, but with such treachery that they can not only deceive people outside the situation, but because they are so highly convincing, they can even make those who also witnessed or experienced what happened doubt the truth.
And it is precisely this last point that leads to the next point.
6. You guilty and he victim
Anyone unfortunate enough to have a manipulator in their life knows the feeling of helplessness caused by being immersed in one of her webs where she will rarely come out well.
Among her abilities she has the ability to turn things around in such a way that, even those situations in which you yourself You have had to suffer the consequences of something that he has provoked, finally it seems that the real person responsible for everything has been you.
And while he converts you and convinces you of your guilty role, he places himself on that stage as your victim, while the bewilderment of not knowing what or how has happened to you plunges you into a deep state of consternation and impotence, which you finally put an end to by assuming it and thus letting everything pass.
He gets away with it and in the process saps your morale a bit more, so you'll be more docile and manageable next time .
7. They make you doubt yourself
This is one of the greatest dangers of manipulative people, and it is that by managing the circumstances that surround you and of which you are a part, they sow you the doubt of what is true and what is not, between what you have really done and what according to him has happened.
If the feeling of inconsistency between your way of acting and what that person says has happened is something that comes up to you relatively frequently, you are surely a victim of the bad arts of a manipulator who acts for the benefit own.