The starting point of envious people is their constant effort to compare themselves with others Perhaps they have not even considered that this can lead them to create an exhausting lifestyle and to feel a continuous unhappiness that they only know how to overcome with the enjoyment of the misfortune of others. That being said, who would want them around?
We ourselves are the ones who choose who we share our personal space and time with, but there are situations in which we cannot choose, such as at work or in collaborative projects.Although we always have a resource at our fingertips: being able to detect envious people who may be around us.
If you would like to know what are the main peculiarities that characterize them, we will tell you in this article.
Jealous people: The 9 traits that define them
So that you don't get caught off guard if you come across these kinds of people, we help you identify them:
one. They disqualify those they consider superior
Perhaps they resort to insults or it may be some kind of mockery or disqualification about something that in principle should not be insulting. The fact is that when envious people consider that another is better than them in some aspect, their automatic mechanism is to criticize them behind their backs in an offensive way
So, if you find that you're one of those people who bothers to put you down, be very clear that what's frustrating them is that they'd like to be like you in some way.
2. They are constantly on the defensive
And since one of the peculiarities that characterizes envious people is that they systematically disqualify others, in their way of understanding how people work, they expect them to be mocked as well.
And what does that belief lead them to? To continually believe that they are being criticized and, therefore, systematically protect themselves without having to do so. That said, remember that if you come across someone who is continuously taking everything as a personal attack, it may be an indicator that envy is behind it.
3. They display their power
As little as they can, they try to show off how much they are, how much they have or how much they have achieved. This habit of hesitating is still an exhibition of his power to try to mark his supposed superiority over the rest of the people.
4. Their self-esteem depends on their perception of others
Something very typical of envious people is to carry out a reading or X-ray of everyone they know, with the aim of evaluating, based on her appearance, if he is someone better or worse than her.
As if that were not enough, the most unfortunate thing is that depending on the perception you have of that other person, your own self-esteem will be affected.
In other words, far from having a clear self-concept, in reality the way you see and value yourself depends on the result of comparing yourselfwith someone else.
5. They boycott the progress of their rivals
Let's not forget the starting point of envious people: they are in continuous comparison with the whole world. But what happens when they discover that those they consider to be their rivals are making inroads toward their goals?
Well, to the extent that they can, they boycott them so that they don't achieve their goals. For this type of individual, the success of others is like a personal failure Let's not forget that their self-esteem depends on how good or bad the person they consider their opponent is.
6. They are very controlling
Within the same vicious circle in which they turn their own lives, control is one of the operating mechanisms of envious people, since it is part of their dynamics of comparison with others to judge accordingly. what point they are in relation to them.
Without that control, they can't find a way to measure themselves with the rest, and without being able to measure themselves, they don't know how to see themselves Independent. Therefore, without control they find no reason for being and feel lost. That's why they never let their guard down wherever they go.
7. They overreact when others are happy for someone
In the way of understanding happiness and even joy and its motives, we cannot expect a normal way of proceeding in envious people.
For them there is no cause for celebration if another person manages to achieve something, quite the opposite; they automatically feel outraged and inferior, so they cannot show joy in an authentic way.
One of the situations in which envious people are quite portrayed is when they receive the news that things are going very well for someone or that something has happened to them that makes them very excited. In those cases, one of two; Either you clearly see in their expression the anger that it really causes them or you see a totally feigned and overacted happiness being forced.
8. Discourage others
Another hallmark of these individuals is their eagerness to discourage people who pursue a dream or who struggle every day to achieve it an objective, because… lest they achieve it!
Although they may also do it in a more subtle way, resorting to belittling every small achievement they achieve on the way to their goal. Downplaying or discrediting what someone has struggled to achieve is one more way to undermine their self-esteem and make them give up.
9. Use your social circle as part of your personal image
With the importance they give to the image (and not only to the physical, but rather to the idea that the way of being, social position or popularity also conveys), envious people They seek to build their social environment in a way that also contributes positively to their image
That is, for them, their circle of friends also talks about what they are like and, given that they carefully build that image for their own benefit, they are interested in them being people with a certain prestige and charisma. Although yes, never better than them; never anyone who can shade them.