Currently there is a certain allergy to imperfection However, the reality is that we all have weak points that we can improve, although this it should always be done from a realistic and compassionate perspective with ourselves. Knowing those aspects in which we f alter does not make us vulnerable. On the contrary, it strengthens us, since self-knowledge is the first step to improve ourselves and grow day after day.
A world of weaknesses: perfection does not exist
Although extolling the qualities we have is necessary, it is also necessary to know how to self-criticizeThe natural tendency when we sell ourselves to others, whether in informal relationships or in work environments, is always to offer a polished image of ourselves. However, this profile can be unnatural. On the other hand, being transparent with our strengths and weaknesses gives us great value as people, since honesty and sincerity are essential to improve or perfect those points that cost us the most.
Avoiding reviewing our weaknesses can prevent us from having a realistic vision of who we are and foster an unbalanced ego, so that receiving criticism will be experienced as an attack and not as a learning opportunity. Although, as we say, nobody is perfect, sometimes it is necessary to adopt some changes in our way of behaving, since many times our defects can cause us problems with ourselves and with others. Trying to change these most problematic aspects will allow us to be more satisfied and, ultimately, happy.
Of course, many of our flaws and weaknesses are the result of multiple variables such as our personality style, our upbringing, family background, and Other experiences that we have been able to live. Each individual has their own cocktail of experiences and that is why no two people are the same and not all of us have the same difficulties to work with. The good news is that weaknesses can often be improved.
In this article we are going to compile those weaknesses that people can show, indicating what each one consists of so that you can do this self-analysis work yourself in order to get to know yourself better and improve.
What are our main weaknesses?
As we have already mentioned, no one is exempt from defects, since absolute perfection does not exist. Knowing the weaknesses that each one of us has is a first step to improve as people, so let's review the most frequent ones.
one. Selfishness
Selfishness implies thatthe person attends to his own benefit above the needs and desires of othersIt is a weakness which becomes noticeable in all areas of the individual's life. The selfish person refuses to offer his help to others when they need it, acts driven by his own good regardless of how this affects others and does not get involved in actions that are directed to the common good
Selfish people are often not aware that they have this defect. For this reason, the role of the environment is important in the first moments. Close people should assertively let the person know that their attitude is not appropriate, as it is harmful to others
2. Lack of empathy
Empathy is one of the most appreciated virtues, so its absence is seen as an important defect.When a person is not empathetic, they are unable to perceive reality from the other's point of view. For this reason, she cannot imagine how the other person might feel, nor does she consider acting to make them feel understood. This deficiency has a powerful effect on interpersonal relationships, as it can make it difficult to establish he althy and intimate bonds.
3. Unsafety
Insecure people lack sufficient self-confidence, so they feel helpless in the face of challenges and events thrown at them present. Insecurity is closely linked to the difficulty in making decisions and in defending one's own rights against others. Feeling insecure can lead a person to act according to what others want or expect of them, adopting a submissive disposition instead of acting firmly and decisively.
In addition, insecurity will also be problematic in interpersonal relationships. People with this defect often get involved in dependency relationships and are willing to act according to the wishes of their partner, often tolerating unacceptable behaviors as long as they are not alone. Insecurity is a defect that is usually detected by attending to small signals, especially those of a non-verbal nature. Insecurity can cause the person to speak in a low tone of voice, without gesturing much or maintaining eye contact with the other person
4. Dependence
Dependence is, in a certain way, linked to insecurity. Dependent people have enormous difficulties in being able to function on their own without the support of others This seriously affects their daily lives and greatly limits their possibilities for personal growth. Among the most characteristic problems of dependent people are the difficulty in making decisions, managing one's life, taking steps, carrying out tasks independently, etc.
Throughout our lives, all of us need to progressively acquire increasing independence, so that we assume responsibilities according to our age and maturity. Dependence is a serious problem when it occurs in adults who should fend for themselves.
5. Envy
Envy has a certain relationship with insecurity and disagreement with oneself. Envious people long to have what others have, be it material goods, a job, a relationship, etc. Envy manifests itself when the individual who feels it chooses to attack the person they envy. This feeling, as we say, hides big problems of dissatisfaction.
In case of experiencing it, it is necessary to reflect on what is wrong with our life and what we would like to change. Disqualifying others is just a strategy that covers up the real problem, so it is essential to address the situation if we begin to experience this toxic feeling for oneself and for the rest.
6. Pride
Proud people are those who live with the firm belief that they are superior to everyone else This thinking is especially problematic, since the person acts in an arrogant and even humiliating way with others. In addition, pride acts as a shield that prevents the individual from recognizing their own mistakes and therefore improving. Pride is also an obstacle to collaborating with others, empathizing with them, accepting other opinions and points of view, etc.
7. Hypocrisy
Hypocrisy is a fairly common flaw. Hypocritical people act contrary to the values they promulgate and, at the same time, they act in accordance with principles that they openly criticize. The person hides her true thoughts and intentions under a mask, something that can cause major problems in her life.On many occasions, hypocritical behaviors are related to social desirability. That is, with what others expect of oneself. For this reason, in the face of hypocrisy, it is essential to reflect on what are the authentic values that guide one's life regardless of the judgment of others.
8. Irresponsibility
Irresponsibility is another great flaw. Irresponsible people are not capable of being firmly involved in activities, projects or commitments In the same way, they do not comply with their obligations and do not respect the rules. Nor do they assume the consequences that this way of acting may entail.
Irresponsibility creates problems both for the individual himself and for his environment. The weight of their irresponsible acts usually falls on family members or co-workers, which can cause serious effects in the social, family and work environment.
9. Disorder
Disorder leads people to inadequately manage their material and immaterial resources. This causes the individual to keep her personal space in a chaotic state. In the same way, there is also an inadequate management of time and pending tasks to be done. For this reason, it is common for disorderly people to have problems completing all their tasks, maintaining a well-organized routine, arriving on time to the corresponding places, etc.
10. Individualism
People with this tendency act without taking into account the perspective and opinion of others Although it is important to have their own criteria and act accordingly to our values, it is also necessary to consult with others about the steps we are going to take. This is especially important when our behavior is going to have repercussions on the rest. In the workplace, it is common for people who are not capable of teamwork to act in an individualistic way, without taking into account the point of view of their colleagues.
Conclusions
In this article we have reviewed the most frequent defects, as well as their characteristics. Defects are part of human nature, although sometimes they can seriously interfere with our lives and affect the people around us. In these cases, it is convenient to carry out a self-analysis exercise to detect what our weak points are and assess how we can improve them.
It's not about finding perfection, because it doesn't exist. On the contrary, the goal is to find a balance that allows us to be ourselves while feeling satisfaction with the way we do things, avoiding unnecessarily harming others.