Fearing growth is more common than you think and we are not referring only to growing as adults and having all the responsibilities that this entails, but to growing as a person.
Stagnation can often be a constant fear of failure, so we try as much as possible to avoid success and even more to face the obstacles that get in our way, because instead Seeing them as a reason to improve is a way of reinforcing our weaknesses.
Bringing as a consequence a deep insecurity that can go unnoticed through staying in what we know as a 'comfort zone' which can reduce anxiety and worries, but will prevent us from moving forward and emerging . Leaving us in the same place always and with which we always find excuses that are disguised as justifications about the limitations we have to improve.
Has this happened to you? That you feel stuck in the same place and you feel that no matter how much you want it, you cannot find that leap towards your growth, then this article is for you. We are going to learn what are the most common limiting beliefs in people who prevent their success or inhibit their progress.
What are limiting beliefs?
They are determined as an altered perception of reality and the opportunities that are presented, which are evaluated as a threat to integrity due to the feeling that one's own abilities are not enough to successfully overcome them.This not only prevents favorable personal growth in any area of development, but also significantly affects confidence and self-esteem.
The big problem with these beliefs is that if they are not treated correctly to eliminate them from the mind, the person will end up normalizing them and making them part of their individual belief system.
Most common limiting beliefs in people
Clarifying the origin and what these beliefs are, learn below which of these are the most common and which tend to become a mantra that anchors us to inaction or mediocrity.
one. That's how I am
This is the most classic excuse to avoid explaining inappropriate behavior or not trying something new, although it is very important to have your own convictions and vision of the world, it is never advisable to close to changesThis prevents you from seeing beneficial opportunities for yourself and you will have communication problems.
People who have this limiting belief resist change because they think that changing means being someone completely different from who they are or that it will bring something negative to their lives, when it does not necessarily have to be the case . A change can be the ideal impulse to improve your skills and grow.
2. The environment must change
This belief only highlights your inability to recognize and assume responsibility, as well as a poor justification of a consequence caused by a mistake made. It is true that not every environment is right for us, but we must keep in mind the ability to adapt to the environment, have the confidence to interact and stand out harmoniously with everyone, instead of demanding that everything adapt to you.
3. I can not do it
'Why can't you?' 'Just because I know I can't' is very common to hear this from someone who lacks solid self-confidence and is afraid of taking risks so they don't have to deal with the consequences, even if they help you do better in the future.
The problem is… How can you know you can't do it if you don't try? Trying something new is not a mandatory callsign that you have to dedicate yourself to it. If you don't like it or it didn't work for you, then don't do it again, but always keep with you the learning that it leaves you.
4. It is better to suppress emotions
'Crying in front of others makes you look weak'… But then you can't vent even at home?People with this belief tend to keep their emotions and feelings to themselves, for fear of being judged by others, rejected or humiliated in any way, which poses a great threat.
However, these people tend to become unempathetic, cynical, withdrawn, stubborn, or have difficulty relating to people.
5. I don't have the opportunities
Another very common excuse to avoid doing something or trying something new, after all, if you think that you don't have the ideal opportunities and the perfect moment, why bother doing it? Yes, surely it will be impossible to achieve it. However, it is sometimes necessary to find our own opportunities instead of waiting for them to magically fall from the sky. It is necessary to keep in mind that 'the perfect moment' does not exist, if you want to do something, find out what you need and do it now.
6. Life is very unfair
We don't have the right conditions because life is very hard, but we have news for you, life is as you perceive it.In this sense, if you think he is an executioner, then you will see everywhere a punishment cell and that way you will not be able to emerge even if you think you are trying , since you are putting yourself the biggest obstacle of all.
7. I'm out of time
Many people have the firm belief that if they fail to do or achieve a certain goal at a certain age, then they never have the possibility of doing so. Who said that this was so? There is no time limit for you to start doing what you have always wanted, you just need the motivation to want to achieve it.
After all, you've probably heard the famous saying 'it's never too late to start'.
8. I will always stay where I am
This is what we talked about previously about staying in your comfort zone, which may seem like the most convenient environment to function, considering your own abilities that you think you have.Then this will prevent you from having the possibility of growing, even in what you are good at, just for the fear of thinking that it cannot be done.
Do you think you can go from being good to being great?
9. Relationships are more difficult now
Although there are greater challenges today to have an intimate relationship with someone, because there are those who prefer to have a casual relationship or seek a different path from yours, the secret to overcome this is communication and that is exactly the fault in this case. People who always excuse themselves for not improving the quality of their relationship, for not being encouraged to go out, or for believing that no person is suitable (and vice versa) is usually because they have problems communicating, as well as resolving conflicts.
10. I need a partner to be happy
A big mistake! To be happy in a relationship and to make someone else happy, it is first necessary to be able to be happy on our own, since our own happiness only depends on us and on no one else.If you go with this fixed belief towards a relationship, then it is possible that you will be more unhappy than anything else, because you will always have a distorted idea of happiness.
eleven. Why fix myself if no one will notice me?
Why do you have to look good to please someone? It is true that we want to fix ourselves to get a positive response from a person, but this is not always the case, since self-care is just a reflection of feeling good about ourselves. This is only a pretext to justify a failure, when it is due to little interaction, opening up with a person and low self-esteem.
12. I don't know if I'm ready/ready
Think for a moment, are we ever really ready? The answer is no. We are never quite ready to face something, because experience is gained through practice and if you don't start doing it, you won't be able to get a favorable result or learn how to get it.
13. This can wait
Since people don't feel ready, they put that wish in the 'I'll do it later' or 'there will be time for this' box, we know there is no rush to achieve a goal. But leaving it for later can become a tendency to procrastinate, for fear of having some kind of failure or failure.
14. I don't know what my purpose in life is
Very few people know their life purpose at an early age and follow a plan regarding it, but not doing so is completely common and there is nothing wrong with it, since your purpose is only yours and no one else's, so it's up to you to work to discover it and get to it.
But how to find out? First you must change the belief from ignoring your purpose to seeking your purpose, then start practicing different things until you find something that you are passionate about and finally, study everything you need to perfect yourself in that.
fifteen. I better keep it to myself
People with major insecurity problems may feel that their opinion or point of view on a subject is not worth sharing, because it is not good or interesting enough to be known by others, so It's better to keep it locked up. This means that people cannot know the real scope of their potential and they will feel more and more withdrawn.
16. I'm sure they're better than me
One of the reasons people are also silent about sharing their opinions, as well as preferring to stand back rather than make their presence known, is because they have the wrong but sure belief that others around them can do much better than them. Which can bring repercussions about submissions, manipulations or feelings of inferiority.
17. I'm a bit useless
Thoughts of personal worthlessness is also a very common limiting belief and affects people who have this perception of themselves, since they think that they always ruin everything. This belief acts as a double edge, on the one hand to stay in the comfort zone, since it is the only place where it can 'use something' and as a justification to avoid working on your problems.
18. I don't have that much courage
In feeling that we don't deserve something is the same as feeling useless to get something, since he perceives himself as a worthless person and therefore, he deserves everything bad that happens around him or worse still, it generates the actions so that everything in their life looks negative to themselves.
19. I'm not a pessimist, I'm a realist
Another clear example of limiting beliefs are pessimistic thoughts, after all, how is it possible to be encouraged to experience something if you believe that everything will go wrong? So they prefer to go with a defeated attitude so that failure is expected.When this thought is very common, it becomes something that is part of everyday life.
twenty. Others are guilty of what happens to me
Although some people claim that everything bad that happens around them is their cause or their little value, these people believe that the actions of those around them are the cause of their failure. Either because they withhold it, because they are unfair or because they think they envy you, when it is completely false.
twenty-one. If it were otherwise
'If I had more money' 'if I had studied such a thing' 'if I had not made that decision' 'if I had a better opportunity'. The past only helps us in one way: by teaching us, all the consequences of our actions leave us learning to improve, but they are never an excuse to hold us back or prevent us from continuing to find our way.
22. Success is impossible without the right circumstances
Again, the perfect moment does not exist, it is a fallacy to justify the fear of facing something unknown, so it is preferable to postpone until the ideal opportunity arrives. But when is that ideal opportunity? Many success stories come from the uphill struggle of those who made it, rather than being a gift. So, what are you waiting for?
23. It is useless to give everything
Why bother if nothing is going to get better? The only way to grow is to work on it, strengthen our skills and keep our spirits up. In this way it is possible to face obstacles successfully, but if we restrict ourselves and have a negative attitude we will not obtain a favorable result, then the path will seem not worth it.
Do you usually have a belief that is limiting you?